Do you ever make assumptions based on what you think you know will likely happen? Do you ever get caught up in the habit of predicting things?

One of the reasons we make assumptions is because we have a constant desire to explain things, so they fit within our personal view of life. We like to explain things based on what we know, and what we know is influenced by our experiences, opinions and beliefs.

In order to make things fit within our personal boundaries, and therefore validate our own point of view, we often fill in the blanks and get into a habit of making assumptions. We second guess and predict what will happen, what people will do or say.

We feel better saying, "This is what will happen", or "That's how it is", even if it isn't completely true. Have you ever made assumptions about something or someone only to find out later that the assumptions you made weren't true?

We expect that someone will do this or that because it is what you would do. We develop concepts about how things are and construct opinions on just about everything.

We often assume that other people share the same perception as we do. Our expectations, based on the assumptions we make, are often at the core of the conflicts and drama we experience at work and in our personal relationships. Our attachment to how things are 'supposed to be' can cause hurt feelings, dis-ease and damaged relationships.

If you catch yourself in the habit of making assumptions, let go of this need to control, and stop filling in the blanks. Notice and respect how valuable and unique each personal view really is.

Communicate with others as clearly as you can by asking better questions and expressing what you really want. What someone else thinks is true, might surprise and enlighten you!