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Believe In Yourself

by Admin February 6, 2012

What makes people succeed in following through on their well intended goals, is not motivation, willpower, skills or talent. Even though these are all important in any formula for success, the most important factor for success is your belief.

We behave and make choices based on what we believe is true. We make decisions that are congruent or aligned with what we believe is true, especially with what we believe about ourselves.

What do you believe about yourself?

If you want to emulate someone who has been successful or someone who has accomplished the things you would like to accomplish, or has achieved the goals you aspire to achieve, the most intuitive and logical question to ask would be “How did you do that?”  The counter intuitive - but more important - question is “What do you believe about yourself that allowed you to achieve those things?” "What has to be true about you that made you successful?"

If it were just a question of how- to do something and having the willpower to do it, we would all achieve many more things in our lives.

Without a firm belief in yourself and a clear reason why you want what you want (based on your values and principles), it is easy to get sidetracked. Beliefs and values are the two sides of the coin called motivation. They give you direction, a sense of purpose and lead to inspired action.

What are some of the core beliefs that have to be in place?

First, you have to believe that achieving your goal is really possible for you. Notice the difference between ‘thinking’ something is possible (from your head), ‘believing’ something is possible (from your heart) and ‘feeling’ it is possible (from your gut)

When your head, heart and gut are aligned, you create tremendous inner power. You create a high level of certainty. When people get into that place of certainty, achieving their goal becomes a must.

Second, you have to believe that you have what it takes the resources to achieve your goal. Resources can be internal and external. Examples of internal resources could be: courage, skill, commitment, confidence, clarity, passion, energy, strength, faith, resilience, communication, determination and wisdom. Some examples of external resource could be: people, money, business strategy technology and time.

And third, you have to believe you’re fully deserving of reaching your goal.

As a life coach I find it interesting how we have developed these beliefs about how much money we can make, or what kind of relationship we can find, or how much success we can have.  We all have these belief systems about how much joy, love or success we can experience.

By holding on to these limiting and erroneous beliefs we sabotage ourselves, causing us to remain in the old familiar comfort zone were we feel secure.

We can change limiting and erroneous beliefs when we fully understand and acknowledge the core limiting belief.  We can also change self limiting beliefs by starting to build new empowering habits.

Is Your Thermostat Set Too Low?

by Admin January 4, 2012

In his book “The Big Leap”, author Garry Hendricks writes that each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure.


Does this sound familiar?

As a personal life strategy coach I have found that what influences your inner thermostat setting
the most are the beliefs you hold about yourself. Some of these beliefs are limiting - even erroneous -  and hold you back from enjoying all the love, financial abundance, and creativity that’s rightfully yours.


But unless you make a concerted effort and commitment to change your inner thermostat setting will remain the same, your past story will continue into the present and beyond.


But what if you could make the desired changes you seek in your personal life or career, would you? What if you would choose, decide, take action and realize your goals? What would the payoff be if you really made this happen? How valuable would that be?

What would that be worth to you? How would that change your life's situation?


Of course this possibility would be tremendously valuable  - not only in terms of financial gain, but in terms of happiness, emotional health, personal growth, and personal success.


Stop sabotaging yourself and unlock your true potential. Schedule a complimentary coaching strategy session today and learn more about how life coaching may benefit your current life or career situation.


Turning Uncertainty Into Opportunity

by Admin April 6, 2010

On Wednesday April 28, professional life and business coach, author and speaker, Dieter Pauwels will engage an audience at the Focal Point in St. Louis, MO in a special thought provoking and high-impact dialogue on how to navigate through uncertainty toward a new path of personal discovery and growth.

With the right tools, skills and mindset there are ways to navigate the rough waters of uncertainty in your life.

You might be transitioning, re-evaluating or just searching for a new perspective in your personal or professional life. You could be looking for direction in your business or you might be an individual determined to create new possibilities through self discovery and growth.

Embrace the growing pains that come with self discovery and find your balance on the beam of life!

You'll learn ...

  • 7 universal principles that govern the creative process
  • How to plan for the future without knowing what it will be
  • Counter-intuitive strategies to reduce feelings of anxiety, fear and stress
  • Personal life skills to become more resilient in times of change
  • Practical ideas on thriving during uncertain times and circumstances
  • How to embrace uncertainty as an opportunity to reshape your life with a deeper sense of fulfillment and joy.

Space is limited - Registration Required
To register online click here

On the Wings of Change

by Dieter Pauwels February 26, 2009

What can the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly teach us about personal development, emotional boundaries, change and creating new possibilities? 

Consider the following.

Every caterpillar has a specific destiny - to become a butterfly.

Though it has no choice in the matter – it will always be a butterfly! – It must nonetheless eat to gain strength and size to reach its potential as a beautiful winged creature.

That you have a free will and so many choices, of course, only heightens your responsibility to find your true vocation in life.

Viktor Frankl, the Austrian psychiatrist who survived the horror of the Nazi death camps during World War II, wrote in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, that life charges each of us to carry out a specific mission. This particular task is ours alone, for our lives can neither be replaced, nor repeated.

"There are two great days in a person's life -
the day we are born and the day we discover why." (W. Barcley)

You cannot become a butterfly by remaining a caterpillar.

At first, a caterpillar protects itself from the outside world, wrapped inside a chrysalis. It then grows and strengthens itself until the day it is ready to emerge as a whole new being.

Just like a caterpillar, you want to give yourself permission to seek a safe space at times to cherish, rejuvenate, reflect, strengthen - and sometimes heal - yourself for your continued journey toward freedom, success, happiness and fulfillment. 

Yet, you cannot become what you want by remaining what you are. Whatever you choose to become, you must be prepared to break out of the cocoon of self-limiting beliefs, past hurts, regrets and fears that hold you back, and do the work required – whatever the risks.
Because for things to change in your life, you have to change!

"You must take personal responsibility.
You cannot change the circumstances,
the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.
That is something you have charge of." (Jim Rohn)

Once a butterfly, you can never go back to being a caterpillar.

Once you break out of your limiting and self-imposed cocoon, you will create new insights, new possibilities for growth – and even more change.

Welcome change as an opportunity to grow and to become more of who you really are.

About Dieter Pauwels:

Dieter Pauwels is a professional personal  life coach, business and career coach, speaker and author, facilitating personal and organizational transformation. He works with both individuals and teams to create new possibilities, manage change and maximize their productivity and personal effectiveness.
You can visit his life coaching and business coaching website at or read his comments and thoughts on the impact of coaching on life and business coaching blog.

7 Life Coaching Tips to Help You Follow Through on Your New Year’s Resolutions

by Dieter Pauwels January 5, 2009

1. Get excited

You have more options and thus more opportunities than ever before. This also means that you will have more choices to make. Take responsibility and get excited about the choices you will make now as they will determine your level of success and personal satisfaction in the future. Conversely, if you feel that you are "making do" or just settling for something, you can expect more of the same and set yourself up for possible failure.

2. Why versus how

One of the main reasons people fail in following through on their resolutions is because they have not developed enough compelling reasons why they should change. Once you are clear about what you want, whether it is a personal goal or business objective, create a strong "emotional awareness" for yourself. This means that you have to go beyond your thoughts and carry it over to your emotions. Fall in love with the process of reaching your goals.

3. Associate with the right people

Look for family, friends or co-workers who believe in you and support you. Seek the assistance from a personal coach who can give you the learning, strategies, motivation and accountability to achieve your goals.

4. Sweat the small stuff

Henry Ford once said that if you break a big job into small parts it will become easy. Ask yourself what activities are necessary each day and every week to move you in the direction of your goals.

5. Choose feedback versus failure

Many people don’t set goals because they are afraid they might fail. Remember that failure is a concept that only exists in your mind. When you don’t get immediate results, you have not failed, but you have only  produced a certain result. So whatever the results are, consider it feedback and not failure. Ask yourself:"What can I learn from the result I produced?" It is within the answer to this question that you will discover new opportunities and learn better ways of creating the results you seek. At all times remain flexible.

6. What you focus on expands

Focus on what reaching your goal will mean to you, your family, friends or colleagues. Create a mental picture in your mind of the new and improved you and let go of the limiting beliefs and thoughts of your current situation. When you focus on what you don’t have (yet) or focus on the voids in your life, you will only get more of it.

7. Teamwork makes the dream work

When you set goals, think how others will benefit as well. Selfish goals have little merit. Success in any endeavor can only be achieved with and through others.

Compelling goals will give you the ability to grow and stay focused in times of social and economic change. Goals will not only pull you in the direction where you want to go, but also influence the activities you get involved in and the people you meet along the way.  You will find that the path you take, the direction you choose is what is most rewarding. It’s not so much what you will get when you reach your destination or achieve your goal, it’s the person you will become when you get there that defines you for yourself and others.

To your success in 2009!

Ten Life Coaching Questions To Ask Yourself Into the New Year (2/10)

by Dieter Pauwels December 31, 2008

Question # 2: "What Do I Want?"

The quality of your life's experiences amounts to the sum of all the decisions you have ever made.
The power to make decisions is what gives you freedom. The more freedom you have, the more options you can entertain. The more options you have available, the more opportunities you can create for yourself and others.

Have you ever been told what to believe? Have you ever had someone tell you what you should do, how you should feel or behave? Why would you have someone else decide for you in your life? What is the cost of living that way? Life is short, and time is your most valuable resource. Letting anyone else decide for you is a waste of time! No one else knows you as well as you do. You are the expert of your own life.

Think of yourself as the majority shareholder in your life. What are some of the strategic decisions that will help you grow and flourish in the New Year? What will you vote "yes" for in your life? What will you vote "no" for? Recognizing that you have a choice does not mean that there will never be any uncomfortable consequences. But not making a decision is also a decision which could have consequences that are just as negative.

Peter Drucker once said that whenever you see a successful business, someone once made a courageous decision! In what department of your life's organization - relationships, money, health, fun, recreation, personal growth - do you currently experience the most challenge? Where do you feel trapped?

Whatever you believe is missing, it is yours, waiting to be claimed. The first step is to make a conscious decision about the things you would like to have more of and the things you will need to let go off.

Some people get trapped in inaction. They have a hard time saying yes, because that would mean that they have to close off other possibilities. In economics, this is referred to as the 'opportunity cost'. The same principle is true in life. Saying yes to one thing often means saying no to many other possibilities.

Don't just dwell in possibility. Dwell in reality!

Choose, decide, take action, and make 2009 your best year ever!

"Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it.
Establish your priorities and go to work."  (H.L. Hunt)

Question # 10: "How am I spending my time?"
Question # 9: "What Would I Do If I Knew I Couldn’t Fail?"
Question # 8: "Who Am I becoming?"
Question # 7: "What Am I Tolerating?"
Question # 6: "Where Do I Focus My Attention?"
Question # 5: "How Am I Using My Talents?
Question # 4: "Who Do I spend My Time With?
Question # 3: "How Do I Honor My Core Values?"

Life and carreer coach based in St Louis

Ten Life Coaching Questions To Ask Yourself Into the New Year (3/10)

by Dieter Pauwels December 30, 2008

Question # 3: "How Do I Honor My Core Values?"

Your core values express the essence of who you are. Although you may share similar values with others, you have a unique set of values. Many of the important decisions that you make, and the actions you take, are based on the values that you hold. Your values, together with the beliefs that support them, are an energetic driving force and provide meaning and direction in your life.

If you commit time and energy to something that violates or neglects one of your core values, you will most likely feel resentful and frustrated. If your values are not respected at your job or in your relationships, you will feel that something is missing.

While it is enormously helpful to know your core values, it is not always easy to identify them.
Often these things are so much a part of who you are, that they become invisible to you.

Create a list for yourself by thinking about the ideas and questions below. Don’t worry about getting it right and capturing all of your values. Your list will be a work in progress. Also, your values don’t have to be a single word; they could be a string of words or sentences or themes. Find the words that work best for you.

Think about the following questions:

  • What is important to you?
  • What do you really care about?
  • What do you really want in your life?
  • When do you feel happiest?
  • Select a time from your life when you felt particular fulfilled. There may have been challenges,but you were still on a roll. It may have been a few minutes, or hours or days. What was important about that experience? What values were you honoring?
  • What do you react negatively to? What makes you angry or frustrated?
    What value is being violated? What kinds of situations cause you to feel incongruent? When are you not being true to yourself?

For each of us, there are usually values that are so much a part of us that we don’t even think to put them on a list. These are often our most dearly held values. A teacher might fail to include learning; an artist might forget to write down creativity, a business owner might overlook financial success.

Generate a list of values. Next notice which of these in your life you are honoring, which "get lost" or are neglected, and which you sometimes violate through behaviors or choices.

Question # 10: "How am I spending my time?"

Question # 9: "What Would I Do If I Knew I Couldn’t Fail?"

Question # 8: "Who Am I becoming?"

Question # 7: "What Am I Tolerating?"

Question # 6: "Where Do I Focus My Attention?"

Question # 5: "How Am I Using My Talents?

Question # 4: "Who Do I spend My Time With?


Take a moment and write down the unique qualities that define you?
What are the qualities that are at the core of who you are?

Ten Life Coaching Questions To Ask Yourself Into the New Year (4/10)

by Dieter Pauwels December 30, 2008

Question # 4: "Who Do I Spend My Time With?

The people you spend most of your time with have a strong influence on you. When you are surrounded by negative or angry people, you will absorb some of their negativity or anger. When you spend time with people who inspire you, support you and believe in you, their positive energy will boost your motivation, self-confidence and inner strength. 

Do not underestimate the power of influence of the people you surround yourself with.
Make a mental note of the people in your personal and professional life with whom you most often associate and think of how they are influencing you, both positively and negatively.

Perhaps you've heard the story of the little bird. He had his wing over his eye and he was crying. The owl said to the bird, "You are crying." "Yes," said the little bird, and he pulled his wing away from his eye. "Oh, I see," said the owl. "You're crying because the big bird pecked out your eye." And the little bird said, "No, I'm not crying because the big bird pecked out my eye. I'm crying because I let him."

I believe that the quality of your life is greatly influenced by the quality of your associations and relationships. Be cautious of the people you allow yourself to associate with in your personal life and business.

Choose to surround yourself with people who will move you forward on your journey and let go of the negative influences that impede your progress.

Question # 10: "How am I spending my time?"

Question # 9: "What Would I Do If I Knew I Couldn’t Fail?"

Question # 8: "Who Am I becoming?"

Question # 7: "What Am I Tolerating?"

Question # 6: "Where Do I Focus My Attention?"

Question # 5: "How Am I Using My Talents?

Ten Life Coaching Questions To Ask Yourself Into the New Year (8/10)

by Dieter Pauwels December 25, 2008

Question # 8: "Who Am I becoming?"

How satisfied are you with the person you are becoming? What kind of person do you see yourself becoming in the New Year? Do you see someone who is becoming more stressed out or tired with an unsatisfying job or an unbalanced work/home life, or do you see someone who is enjoying a happy and fulfilling lifestyle? How do you feel about your future self?

"If you want to have more and experience more in life, you have to become more."

What are some of the personal qualities you would like to further develop in the New Year?
Perhaps you would like to become more skillful or competent. More honest, sincere, genuine or congruent.  More compassionate, accepting, forgiving or grateful.  More creative or expressive.  More courageous.  More generous, loving or happy. More responsible.

No matter how you feel about yourself right now, you can make a decision to become more of who you really are. The power to choose lies within your mind and how you think about yourself. You will become what you think about, most of the time.

Your thinking process determines how you feel, the choices you make and the results you create.
If you seek to attract new experiences in your life or you want to make certain changes, you need to begin the process in your mind. Focus on continuous personal development; with books, CD’s, seminars, personal coaching, studying, listening, practicing, and nourishing your mind.

Become the mental architect of your own personal transformation!

Change your mind and change your life in 2009!

Question # 9: "What Would I Do If I Knew I Couldn’t Fail?"
Question # 10: "How am I spending my time?"


Inspired To Succeed

by Dieter Pauwels December 10, 2008

During my life coaching conversations, I often hear people say:” I can't wait to get motivated” or “I need someone or something to motivate me.” These statements imply that motivation comes to us from sources outside ourselves.  As in, we are motivated by money, competition, market trends, what other people say and do, the media, etc…

If you buy into this concept of external motivation, you will be plagued with fleeting success.  The level of accomplishment and personal fulfillment you achieve through external sources of motivation is short lived and unsustainable. When things outside of yourself motivate you, you will find yourself continuously reacting to circumstances over which you have little or no control. 

This reactivity takes all the creative energy out of you.  Energy that you could be using to pursue the goals that really matter:  the ones that are motivated by forces deep within yourself.

True and lasting motivation comes from within.  Its champion is your inner voice.  That omnipotent presence that knows you better than you know yourself.  If you look inside yourself, you will find the key to what really motivates you to be the best person you can be, and to live the life you dream of living. 

Motivation from within is inspirational and enduring.  Because it is based on your core values and beliefs, it provides the basis from which to persevere no matter what.  When the assignment at work seems unending, when you feel you have nothing left to learn, when everyone around you is filled with negativity, your inner source of motivation will guide you along the right path. 

"It is a terrible thing to see and have no vision." (Helen Keller)

Key to knowing the right direction to take is a strong and vibrant vision.  In order to get inspired and feel passionate for what you do each and every day, requires having an idea of where you are going.  A clear vision brings with it an inspired perspective that is able to see future possibilities. In fact, the size of your vision determines the size of every aspect in your life.

Just as a business cannot grow larger than the vision of its leaders, neither can you develop yourself beyond the limits you set.  A strong inner voice is what will spearhead your efforts as you work toward a clear and definite vision of yourself in the future.

To develop a powerful inner voice and build your internal motivation you can:

  • Clearly define your core values – the stuff that’s really important to you.
  • Identify the beliefs you hold about yourself. Are those beliefs empowering you or are they holding you back in pursuit of your vision?
  • Use your values and beliefs to guide your daily decisions.
  • Develop a robust vision of what you want to accomplish in each area of your life. (career, relationships, health, family and friends, ...)
  • Decide to make daily steps toward your vision.
  • When faced with a lack of motivation, look inside yourself to find the lift you need.
  • Resist the temptation to let external rewards or circumstances influence your decisions.

When it comes to doing the things that will bring you closer to your intended vision for yourself, you can listen to all of the voices around you, or you can listen to the voice inside. Life is a constant balancing act between these voices. The voice you hear is the voice you listen for.

When you listen with your heart, you will find that your inner voice speaks the loudest.

Get inspired! To your success.

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