What makes people succeed in following through on their well intended goals, is not motivation, willpower, skills or talent. Even though these are all important in any formula for success, the most important factor for success is your belief.
We behave and make choices based on what we believe is true. We make decisions that are congruent or aligned with what we believe is true, especially with what we believe about ourselves.
What do you believe about yourself?
If you want to emulate someone who has been successful or someone who has accomplished the things you would like to accomplish, or has achieved the goals you aspire to achieve, the most intuitive and logical question to ask would be “How did you do that?” The counter intuitive - but more important - question is “What do you believe about yourself that allowed you to achieve those things?” "What has to be true about you that made you successful?"
If it were just a question of how- to do something and having the willpower to do it, we would all achieve many more things in our lives.
Without a firm belief in yourself and a clear reason why you want what you want (based on your values and principles), it is easy to get sidetracked. Beliefs and values are the two sides of the coin called motivation. They give you direction, a sense of purpose and lead to inspired action.
What are some of the core beliefs that have to be in place?
First, you have to believe that achieving your goal is really possible for you. Notice the difference between ‘thinking’ something is possible (from your head), ‘believing’ something is possible (from your heart) and ‘feeling’ it is possible (from your gut)
When your head, heart and gut are aligned, you create tremendous inner power. You create a high level of certainty. When people get into that place of certainty, achieving their goal becomes a must.
Second, you have to believe that you have what it takes the resources to achieve your goal. Resources can be internal and external. Examples of internal resources could be: courage, skill, commitment, confidence, clarity, passion, energy, strength, faith, resilience, communication, determination and wisdom. Some examples of external resource could be: people, money, business strategy technology and time.
And third, you have to believe you’re fully deserving of reaching your goal.
As a life coach I find it interesting how we have developed these beliefs about how much money we can make, or what kind of relationship we can find, or how much success we can have. We all have these belief systems about how much joy, love or success we can experience.
By holding on to these limiting and erroneous beliefs we sabotage ourselves, causing us to remain in the old familiar comfort zone were we feel secure.
We can change limiting and erroneous beliefs when we fully understand and acknowledge the core limiting belief. We can also change self limiting beliefs by starting to build new empowering habits.