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Life Coaching Principles of Self Mastery / Part 2: Acceptance

by Admin October 30, 2008

"We cannot change anything until we accept it.
Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses."

(
C.G. Jung)

The second principle of self mastery might present the greatest challenge at first. Yet, in the end it could well deliver the greatest gift of all.

Accepting WHAT IS!

We are who we are. We do what we do, and we do the best we can in any given moment, based on the beliefs we hold.

The beliefs we hold form the core of our judgments. We see what we believe, because we always look for evidence or so called 'facts' to support and reinforce the beliefs we have adopted. We continue to believe our beliefs in order to 'protect' ourselves. Accepting what is, means suspending or letting go of the judgments about ourselves, others and the events in our lives. When we judge what we see and how we feel, we push away the opportunity to change.

It is only when you give up 'what should be', based on your judgments, that you can fully experience the perfection of 'what is'.

"When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless."
(
Byron Katie)

When you accept what is, you will begin to experience the freedom this new perspective brings. When you lose the blinders of restricting beliefs and accept the gift of clarity, you will see options and opportunities that were previously unavailable to you.

A Time to Reflect

by Admin October 16, 2008

During this magnificent fall season, trees let go of their leaves in order to restore balance and prepare for new growth in the spring. Do you ever wonder about the incomprehensible power of life that brings them back every spring?

The fall is also a time to reflect, a time to appreciate and to remember. The fall is nature's way of inviting us to restore balance, nurture the soul and feel grateful for what we have.
We are all part of this amazing process of change and development. Did you know that ninety-five percent of the atoms in your body are replaced in the course of a year? Did you know that your skin regenerates itself every four weeks? As millions of cells in our bodies continue to change, millions of stars and galaxies keep moving in an ever-expanding space. Life is celebrated through a constant motion of change.
Instead of celebrating change and personal growth, we have become very skilled in holding on and resisting the flow of life's creative energy and our innate ability to change!
We hold on, not only to the material possessions we have accumulated (material clutter), but more significantly, we tend to hold on to assumptions, beliefs, and perspectives (mental and emotional clutter) as if they were carved in stone.
Instead of expending energy looking for evidence to support whatever position we favor, we can choose to become more fluid and flexible. We can choose to become more congruent, rather than consistent.
When your closet is full, you'll have no room to hang new clothes. The ironic thing is that most of the clothes hanging in your closet are probably outdated, and you wouldn't wear them anyway. In order to create something new in your life, you have to make space for it! You must let go of the old in order to create something wonderfully new!
We want to let go of limiting beliefs that no longer support us, in order to adopt new and empowering beliefs. We want to let go of doubt, anger, resentment, and guilt, to make room for certainty, joy, understanding and acceptance. In order to attract a new relationship, we need to let go of the emotional attachment to an old one. We can drop an old behavior that is harmful to our well-being and make space for building a new habit that will support our goals and values.
Make some time in your busy calendar this week for yourself. Make some time to reflect on the priorities in your life and the choices you are making. If you don't clear out some space in your mind, there is no room for new ideas to develop.
Ask yourself if what you're doing is taking you in the direction you want to go. Are you being the person you really want to be or is your life being directed by the expectations of others? What is it that could bring more fulfillment and happiness in your life? Think about it. 

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